Sunday, November 27, 2016

Wearing the Words

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This seems to be a Christmas gift trend this year: wearing the text of your favourite book on a shirt or scarf.  I love it! This picture is a T of The Princess Bride, from www.litographs.com.  

Lately, the effect of the way we say things (as believers) has been bouncing around in my head.  I have always dismissed those who challenge the word choices and certain phrases of others as nit-picking.  "You KNOW what we mean" I have said, many a time. But I'm re-thinking that.  I still don't think judging others as having wrong theology is a right response. In that situation I think I would still say "you know what we mean" as in "let's not jump to judgmental conclusions about someone else without a conversation." 

But I'm re-thinking the importance of how we choose our words, because over time, these sorts of incorrect ways of saying things have a way of getting into our hearts and our heads, and they actually separate us from God.  Over time and use, they become part of our paradigm; part of the way we envision our relationship with God in our minds eye. And the way we envision God and ourselves effects how we act and react in our life and with God.  

We say things in songs, in prayers, in messages, in conversation that are inaccurate. And yes, most of KNOW what we mean. And I don't think God hears us with His hands on His proverbial hips and won't respond until we ask correctly, as in "say the magic word!" I think He does KNOW what we mean, and is eager to respond to us.  It's called grace, and mercy. Buckets of it. But lately I have found myself needing to undo some unconsciously formed ideas of God and me, as a result of some of these inaccuracies.  I think my brain just automatically, over time, lines itself up with what it hears. 

Some examples: 

Come, Holy Spirit.  Implies that the Holy Spirit is somewhere else, and comes when we call.  Implies that we are apart from Him. What I really mean is I want to see what He is doing, I want to be a part of what He is doing, I want to experience it in a physical encounter maybe...I want to surrender to His work in me. 

God, please be with ___ in her grief, pain, fear etc.  Implies that He isn't.  Same effect as above.  What I'm really asking is for that person to be able to feel and know the presence of God in their time of need.  

I am or we are waiting for God to act/speak/answer .  Here's a quote my friend Matte Downey posted on Facebook today. "Waiting for God to act only seems like waiting for God to act. God is always acting because God is always loving the world and always giving birth to something. Waiting for God to act is actually waiting for your soul to become quiet enough and contemplative enough to discern what God is doing in the obscure and forgotten corners, far from the corridors of power or wherever you think the action is." Brian Zahnd on Advent.    
And this post on Facebook, also today, from Dan Wilt: In Advent we wait, not for God to speak, but for us to hear.

Our words create imagery:  
We represent God to the world.  Implies that we are sent out, (away from God) into the world, like an ambassador is sent to another country to represent.  Truth is I am not sent into the world away from God and asked to report back to Him at the end of my day.  I am sent out with Him in me and alongside me all throughout the day, as Jesus described to the disciples in the gospel of John; advocate, counselor, comforter, helper. 

Some songs we sing and prayers we pray leave me feeling like I am the centre of my world, which also creates a feeling of separation from God; asking Him to do things for me, to change things for me, to give me what I need - instead of asking for my heart to soften and surrender, for my eyes to be opened to see what he is doing, for my heart to rest in who He is; for me to recognize that He is the centre of all, in all, and through Him all things were made...as described in Colossians.  As a child feels secure when their parent is in control, vs a child whose parent does their bidding, or tries to.  One creates a sense of safety and rightness with the world, the other creates anxiety and selfishness.  

Here's to minding our words.

And P.S. I'd like a scarf, with Anne of Green Gables.  ;) 
   


Sunday, February 28, 2016

The Sap is Running




The sap is running
Life green will soon contest
death grey/
dead brown/
cold white

The sap is running
Truth shouts on March wind
that after death
comes life


Stand down
my body of decaying cells
give up the fight 
my mind shot through
with buckshot lies
be still 
my heart consumed
joy-filled pieces  
never returned 
until ecstasy has no 
dwelling place 


stand down
the whole earth shouts
first death -
   I breathe in deep
then life -
    can I believe?

stand down
I hear the trickling melt
first death -
   I breathe in deep
then life -
  I breathe out slow
           this dying life
                                                                stand down
                                                                     the sap is running







Sunday, November 29, 2015

Where are you in the life of Christ, this Advent Season?

This fall I heard this question from a speaker.

"Where are you in the life of Christ?"

He proceeded to remind us, to put it very simply; that Jesus' life on earth was an example to us of how to live.  There are many ways in which the life of Christ mirrors our own human experience, and when we can identify with Him we can learn from Him, both from his experience and his example,

Then he asked us this question, specifically in light of the Easter story: "Where are you in the life of Christ, right now in your own life?"
- Are you in Holy Thursday, receiving bread and wine and having your feet washed in preparation for what is ahead?
- Are you in your own version of Good Friday, experiencing death, loss, surrender, pain, betrayal?
- Are you in Holy Saturday - waiting, grieving, trying to process what on earth just happened and what now?
- Or are you at Resurrection Sunday, and God is raising up new life and hope in you?

It is a thought provoking idea.  It reminded us all of the process that is our life - that one stage is followed by another.  It opened our eyes to think about where the person next to us might be right now.  And of course once we can identify where we are, what can we learn from Jesus?  From the other players in the biblical story?

In light of this, in this Advent Season I can consider this question:

"Where am I in this (very new) life of Christ?"

- Am I feeling completely discouraged and abandoned by God, like the people of Israel before Christ?  Am I trying to wait with hope, but really struggling to hold on?  Have I traded hope for cynicism and unbelief?

- Am I, like Mary, being asked to consider the impossible, and to surrender all my life's dreams in response?

- Am I feeling impregnated with a purpose put inside me by God himself?  There are few conditions in life as emotionally complex as pregnancy.  The expectant parents experience fear, uncertainty, amazement, vulnerability, strong attachment, great responsibility, excitement, joy, honour and humility, much physical discomfort (for her), sacrifice, shock, disbelief, wonder, urgency, helplessness, empowerment, anxiety, hope, dread, and busy preparations. For every positive emotion there is another negative emotion felt, and vice versa.

- Or am I facing (painful) labour and delivery, among strangers, without medical care?

- Am I now holding a tiny, vulnerable, needy, beautiful and very important baby, and experiencing all the feelings and actions that must accompany that?

Where am I in the new life of Christ?

And what can I learn from the characters in this story - Almighty God the Father, Mary, the Angel, the Holy Spirit, Joseph, the shepherds, Elizabeth, Simeon, Anna, Jesus?





Sunday, November 22, 2015

Motivation by Invitation

 All my life, both internally and externally, motivation for me has felt like pushing. Like a push from behind. Sometimes a push from behind might be just what I need, to save me from falling backward for example.  But mostly it feels like an unwelcome and unexpected push, into a trip up, sometimes a full fall forward, sometimes whiplash.  And it comes with the implied message of 'hurry up', and 'you are not enough.'  If the push is about something I think is very important and toward something I want, I might try to yield to the push I feel, but often I just get angry at it.  And my less volatile tactic is to just simply side-step and get off the track in order to avoid being pushed at all.

One would think that God, with all His holiness and righteousness and purpose, would be pushing me the most of all.  Actually most often I do think and expect that of Him with regards to me; which has resulted in a great deal of side-stepping on my part.  And yes, anger, too, along with a lot of self-pushing.

But what if - and this is what I am noticing as I journal and talk to God and try not to side-step as much - what if God motivates entirely differently?  I say that because I have been talking to Him about some things I'm fairly certain he wants me to do but that I am currently avoiding; and I am not hearing/feeling push-back. No pushing.  No sighing, and no finger-wagging either. Instead, what I am experiencing is invitation, encouragement, kindness, love, and remarkably to me, he doesn't seemed stressed by my side-stepping.  He is calm.  It's not a bored and disinterested calm, but a content and peaceful and still engaged and intent calm.  Calm that feels like 'I was expecting this from you because I know you, and I understand, and I love you. I get it.' And his hand extended to me as he stands on the path and encourages me to come with, and side-step no longer.

I even get the feeling that if I sometimes side-step and side-track far off the path, he would be willing to go crashing and clomping through the underbrush after me, and then extend his hand again, inviting me to go back to the path with Him so that we can carry on together.

Invitation.  No pushing.

There is a sort of panicked, anxious feeling to pushing.  An urgency, maybe anger and frustration too, and impatience, for sure.  Like I am holding the pusher back.  Exasperation, maybe demanding that I pick up the pace, maybe the implication that I am too stupid or too weak or to chicken to move forward fast enough.  Maybe some 'just get over yourself' or 'sheesh, how many times do I have to explain this to you?'  Maybe even threats.

But with invitation there are feelings of confidence in the purpose, faith, patience, welcome, accompaniment.  There is joy, as in 'come with, you get to do this.'  There is sharing, as in 'come with me.' There is faith in me, confidence that I can, that together we can, even if I think I can't.  There is love and desire, as in 'I want you to come with me.'  There is purpose. And since it is an open invitation there is patience and pursuit of me even if/when I hesitate or veer off or just sit down in fear. There isn't a feeling that if I say no I will ruin everything for both Him and me.  I don't feel like there is a time pressure, as in 'this is a two day offer only.'  But there is a feeling that if I say no I will be bereft.

In my life I have experienced invitation vs. pushing in fun and optional contexts, like being invited to an event that is going to happen whether or not I show up.  Some people give an invitation freely, but many do not. For really important things in life, there is insistent pushing and demands vs. free invitation.  There is the feeling that a push is necessary since this is too important to take the chance that you might say no to my invitation.  I do this to myself, Sometimes, often, I did it in parenting.(Sorry kids.)

So for God, who holds the most important purpose of all - that being our very eternal survival - for God to then invite me and not push me?  It's just not in my motivation paradigm.

What kind of love is this?


Wednesday, August 19, 2015

On Mindfulness, Resonance, and God


  
  


Is it the latest buzz, the newest health craze, or is it, could it be God, calling us?  Is this the heart and voice of God to our culture, to this generation, to each of us, and are we hearing it, but maybe not knowing who or what it is?  Is it the cry of God, reaching out to us, echoing its truth all around us until we hear it?  Is it resonating in us because it is drawing us, because we feel the truth of it somewhere inside?

There is an new buzz word out there right now...for quite a few nows actually - the word mindfulness. Everywhere articles are being written and speakers are speaking about the power of and the need for us to slow down, be present, live in the moment, be mindful.  Brain scientists have discovered fairly recently that meditation creates mindfulness, and actually changes how our brains work.  Large companies are exploring how mindfulness is connected to innovation and creativity.  Psychiatrists and counselors, wise people and writers of Facebook memes and women's magazines are telling us that mindfulness counters stress, and in so doing impacts our health.

Is it God, calling us?  Have we begun to pay attention to this because God's voice is reverberating all around us and our hearts are responding to the sound?

Way back a long time ago I used to play guitar. And I learned something kind of cool that I didn't know before.  When a guitar is just laying there, sans player, and someone close by plays a note that is the same as the note one of the guitar strings is tuned to make, that string will start to vibrate with that sound, all by itself.  The sound has to be close enough, both in proximity and accuracy for it to work, but when it does it is totally cool.  Are like that too?  Is there something inside of us, put there by our creator no doubt, some part of us that recognizes truth?  And when we hear truth in close enough proximity and accuracy, and when nothing heavy is laying on that part of us and stopping the vibrations, maybe that truth vibrates within us?

If it is God calling out to us, to all of us, why would he be calling us to mindfulness?  Well, think of it.  Where do we experience true connection with each other?  What does face to face and eye to eye contact do to our hearts?  How and when does true love penetrate our souls?  What is required of us if we are to be truly present, truly mindful: honesty, humility, confession, acknowledgement of our genuine selves, living in reality, not in wishful thinking or in the future or the past.  And is that not how and when we truly encounter God?  Put another way, how is a generation obsessed with who we wish we were, and with success meaning production so much that we live far beyond our real time capacity almost all the time - how is that generation going to encounter God?

Is God calling out to us?

If we are always in our minds eye wishing we were different, better, somewhere else, we will not connect with God there.  If we are going through our day planning the next meeting, the next shopping list, the next day or week or month, we will not connect with God there either, any more than a child will connect with a parent who is glued to a screen or immersed in a task.  Connection only happens when we stop, look at the other, and gather our thoughts enough to think about and focus on what the other is saying, doing, feeling.  Connection only happens when we are present. When we are mindful.

If God were talking to me, reaching out to me, would I even notice?

Is God calling out to us, to all of us?

And if He is, the call to mindfulness is really a call to Himself.  So often when I think our culture seems to have encountered truth, I think of this line in the bible "having a form of godliness but denying its power." (1Tim. 2:5) We hear the truth and recognize it in ourselves (and what is truth if not godliness), but we deny its power - because for anything to have the power to change us we have to embrace it fully, and we have to tap into something bigger than ourselves. We have to find the life that is inhabiting the truth.

How do we find the power in mindfulness?  The power in mindfulness is that mindfulness is the place where we truly are, and that is where God waits for us, in all his forgiveness, love and life.  It is the same as with all our relationships - true connection happens only when we are genuine and when we are present.  All that honesty, humility, confession and acknowledgement of our genuine selves needs love, acceptance and forgiveness.  And then we realize need life - life full of more than ourselves, life not laced through with death like ours is - life full of courage, strength, ability and love, true love that exists beyond our own judgmental, fearful and self-protective capacity.  We need a safe place, a safe heart big enough to see us, to forgive us, to love us still and to give us hope and faith in the future.  We need a love big enough to love us but not lie to us either.  It's no help to just realize who we truly are without having a way to be there, and not just be there but to live and thrive there. The power in mindfulness is that mindfulness is the place where we truly are, and where God waits for us, in all his forgiveness, love and life.  Without that encounter, then mindfulness might slow us down a little, might relax us a little, but it will not truly change us.  But without mindfulness, we will not encounter the God who can and who will.

Can you hear it?  Can you hear the heart of God calling to us?